Tango Therapy; Sensual dance born on the banks of the Rio pla in South America, tango sharpens all our senses, even in the absence of words. To the point of being considered as a complement to a therapy of couple to make it possible to stimulate the erotic exchanges.
Tango Dancing To Boost Eroticism
Like all human relationships, eroticism contains an important communication dimension and can even be considered as a type of communication in its own right. Indeed, just like oral language, it is based on an exchange of signs. It is basically a physical and psychic conversation between two individuals.
According to the sexological approach, eroticism brings together three fundamental psychic components: cognitive competence (thought and imagination, or fantasy), intentional competence (will and concentration, desire) and emotional competence ( Intra and inter subjective, i.e, in this case, the feeling of love). These, associated with the communicative competence, together form the erotic competence, which allows a relevant erotic relation and source of pleasure.
A mobilization of all the senses
When some of these psychic skills are lacking, or eroticism and communication in the couple become difficult, different kinds of psychotherapies (psychodynamic, systemic, CBT) can be helpful to encourage new alternative behaviors.
But conventional therapies are not the only cure. A complementary practice could be effective to remedy these dysfunctions and to the psychological and physical sufferings that they induce: the tango.
Born in the late nineteenth century in the Rio pla tense on the Atlantic coast of South America, the tango has the distinction of having emerged in a heterogeneous community with incomplete communication. The massive influx of European economic migrants, separated from their wives, has generated a high demand for sexual services and female companionship. However, their weak knowledge of indigenous languages and the linguistic mixing impoverishing the communication exchange, it was necessary to find another way to approach, to be seduced and to trust each other. This is where tango takes shape as a substitute for speech.
This dance integrates, like the word, a transfer of mimetic gestures and emotions: when two people discuss, each one imitates the gestures and the attitude of the other unconsciously, while identifying and recognizing his emotions. But the tango goes further than the exchange of words, since it uses other meanings that improve our inter-subjective communication.
First, it mobilizes our engine: in the abrazo , a position of embrace specific to the tango, the rider guides his partner who follows him in a mimicry conscious and voluntary. It indicates its intention of movement, which must be clear and soft so that the coordination is optimal.
In addition, the tango mobilizes the entire sensory register. The dancers, who do not look directly at each other, use their senses to dance at their best and move in space. Between their bodies are mobilized other resources: the sight (the rider guiding in the surrounding space), the preconception (the consciousness of the position of his body), the touch, the hearing (the music and the breathing) and smell (related to the proximity of bodies).
Finally, tango sharpens the perception of the emotions that take place in one’s own body and that of the partner. Due to the physical proximity, it is possible to feel the heartbeat of the other, breathing, the wetness of his hands, etc. All without exchanging a look.
Without substituting for a psycho therapeutic approach, tango is ideally suited to contribute positively to the preservation and improvement of erotic skills, insofar as it acts in a direct and synchronous way on the relation to oneself and to oneself. ‘other. It allows one to better perceive one’s environment and one’s feelings and then integrate it into one’s own thinking. Tango could be practiced in the same way as an occupational therapy or, better still, a group art therapy: for example, a dozen sessions of two hours each, bringing together eight participants having no emotional connection between them and a tango teacher. A track that is worth exploring.